Ask Nell
The only things that are certain in life are death, taxes… and sex? As long as there are college kids, an insatiableappetite for lovin’ and the thrill of first kisses, therewill always be a lot of questions. With that, I’m happy tobring back my team of sexperts to give you some answers.
For all of you who remember my column, you know the drill. Writein, sit back and take in some good ol’ fashioned banter. Forall of the new students, my name is Nell, and I am a senior Englishand Spanish major here at SMU. I have one purpose and one purposeonly for the greater good: to give out advice on sex and dating.I’m here to help you help other people and just give you alaugh if you need one. Write in your questions, but keep in mind— nothing is too naughty or too nice. I look forward tohearing from all of you and helping you with your issues in and outof the bedroom.
Q: Dear Nell,
I am a freshman girl here at SMU just starting out andlearning how stuff works. This party is kinda new to me and itseems almost too good to be true. Guys are nice to me all the time… asking me to go places and just talking to me. This is myquestion: at what point do I go from being the “nicegirl” to the “[easy] freshman”?
– Sugar & Spice
A: Dear Sugar & Spice,
In a simple answer, don’t seem easy. My sexperts and Iagree, however, that your problem is not only limited to being afreshman. It goes into the whole virgin/whore complex that peoplehave been questioning for years. I remember an incident my freshmanyear of a girl who, while a nice, “good” girl, somewhatconvincingly impersonated Jenna Jameson at a late-night party(without remembering anything the next day) and ended up being”that freshman girl.” Sad situations like this happenall the time, and you can’t always control them.
The good news is you can control what you do and how you feelabout things you do. Act like yourself, and people will respectyou. If you do end up getting an unwarranted rap for something,remember that people will always gossip, and all you can do isremember who you are. If people think you’re in control ofyourself (you don’t always have to be), they’ll foreverthink of you as a good girl. One more random piece of advice:Regardless of how friendly you feel or how many refreshinglibations you have had, make sure you watch what you say.I’ve heard too many stories of girls who were foreverchallenged to say, “In high school, I did _____ in 30minutes.” Nothing positive ever fits into that blank. Besafe, have fun and enjoy being the starlet of school!
Q: Dear Nell,
I met a girl this summer at home who goes to school here. Wehooked up a few times, had fun, but nothing too big. She juststarted SMU and has pretty much ignored me when I’ve seen herout at bars. She even called me [Boris] the other night at a bar!Is she really that stupid or is this some twisted girlgame?
– Been Used & Abused
A: Dear Used,
Have you ever heard that song that goes “It must’vebeen love, but it’s over now”? As sad as it is, peoplechange in different surroundings, sometimes for the better andsometimes for the worse. There’s something about being backat school or starting out in a very social environment like SMUthat makes people want to either be someone else or become like thepeople around them. A lot of people forget who they are and blendinto the crowd. I’m sorry to break it to you, but it soundslike she had fun and moved on. It happens everyday, so don’tworry. Adopt a new mindset: you’re back at school meeting newpeople, so go out and live it up. The night you saw this girl, shemay have been inebriated or just trying to show off, but do youreally care? Your summer fling may or may not come around, but youshouldn’t sit and wait. Put it in your spent bank and moveon. There are more ponies in the stables …
